Re: Julio Cort?zar: Hopscotch
I am very sorry you are offended by my remarks about men. I like men. In many ways I like them better than women. Perhaps you've misconstrued something here. Is that in any way possible? Not knowing me except via this list, it is unfair of you to judge me so harshly. You haven't any idea what my life experiences have been like. Do you? Perhaps I'm accustomed to men who denigrate women, who think women are inferior to men and who see nothing wrong with mistreating a woman. If so, maybe this does color my perception of the world. Would that be so hard to fathom?
Let me ask you something: If 2/3 of the women you had known had been difficult, extremely aggressive females, would not this color your perception of women?? I've known men who have experienced dreadful situations with women who were unfaithful and cruel to them. I empathize with them. Honestly I do. I am fully cognizant of the fact that callous or unacceptable behavior can go both ways.
I assumed you did wish me to explain further on the sexual sadism issue by saying that my first remark had been a "tad cryptic." Was I mistaken? If so, you have my deepest apologies, fausto.
And I will re-iterate what I said a moment ago. I like men. I really do. The majority of my closest friends have always been and currently are men.
I've also made it clear that I haven't read enough of Hopscotch to give a clear, definitive opinion of the work. Did you not see where I said that? This is why I'm reading it again. Honestly, you're making me wonder why I'm doing it at all. It's obvious from the tone of your post that you dislike me intensely. But since you don't really know me, I choose not to take it personally.
And you may be surprised at what I'm about to say, but I understand why you dislike me. For one thing, I've said negative things about a book that obviously means a great deal to you.
For another, I have said some less-than-glowing things about men.
However, I wasn't referring to ALL men when I said "men." Some men, I'm sure, are very sympathetic towards women. I just haven't met very many of these men. Is that my fault? And has it been a crime for me to express my "take" on various books I read from an individualistic standpoint? I tend to think that preconceived ideas
rule the world. We, both men and women, make assumptions, rather consciously or unconsciously, about everything. I'm not saying I'm perfect or that my opinions are written in stone. They're really just the views I have at one moment in time. Believe it or not, they could change tomorrow.
Once more, my apologies, Fausto. Sincerely. And I hope we can put all this behind us. Is this possible, do you think?
"Even a thought, even a possibility, can shatter us
and transform us."
~Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
"All men have the same defect: they wait to live, for they have not the courage of each instant.
Why not invest enough passion in each moment to make it an eternity?" ~E. M. Cioran