Hey. Thank you for your post to the Cortazar thread. I appreciate your comments.
I'll admit that I may have been too apologetic
regarding my previous remarks. I tend to easily get into a 'guilt-complex' frame of mind. This probably is
a "woman's thing." I'm from Atlanta, you know, and Southern women are encouraged to be docile and submissive (yes, even in 2008). I'm a bit of an anomaly in my community and family. I know women who, for example, will let their husbands tell them when and how often they can go to the grocery store. And they don't really think there's anything wrong with this. If they voice their opinion about something and upset anyone, they will usually resort to apologies and explanations.
I'm not trying to find an excuse for why I over-apologized (is that even a word?). I'm merely trying to give you some idea of the cultural society I live in. Certain things aren't easily accepted--opinionated women are not readily welcomed, at least in my neighbourhood.
Yes, the internet is a place where you can be anyone you want to be. However, all the stuff I've said about myself has been 100% true.
I think my main issue with how I spoke about men
is that it gave others a misconception of who I am
and what I'm like. In addition, as you admitted,
I offended you and others on the list. I won't apologize again because that would be sheer
I'm very glad you read my rebuttal, however.
I was hoping someone would comment on it.
Sorry it didn't have the effect I would have wished for. I never dreamed I could offend anyone by being too apologetic. That's a new one for me.
But you're right--I haven't any reason to apologize for being a feminist. Or for being brash. My mother
did warn me last night about turning into a bitter old woman. And she also said that, back in the 70's, when she attended some NOW meetings, the women who regarded themselves as "feminists" had very little use for men. I'm not really aware of the connotation "feminist" has these days. However, I started to take the word off my "Personal Profile" because I don't want to be labelled as something I'm not. Who does?
Ugh! Have I rambled? Yes, I can be loquacious.
We all know this.
The main reason I private messaged you rather than writing this on the list is because I wanted
to ask you about my reviews. What don't you like about them? Is there something I can do improve them? I'm not good at judging my own work, as I'm a perfectionist and nothing is every going
to be good enough for me, anyway. But I admire
your opinions and respect your intellect.
So....tell me, how can I make my reviews better?
All suggestions are most welcome.